944 - Christmas Present from the Past
Friends: Meeting my mom’s long-ago friend “Jeannie” brightened a bleak Christmas in 2002. Here’s the second part of the two-part story we began last week. Blessings! Bob
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Spirituality Column #944
December 17,
2024
Common
Christianity / Uncommon Commentary
Christmas
Present from the Past
By Bob
Walters
“Shout for
joy to the Lord … his faithfulness continues through all generations,” Psalms
100, Mary Jean Alig’s favorite psalm, read at her funeral by her daughter Ginny
Cain.
The story
began back in the 1940s, I think, when teenager Mary Jean Milner ventured from
her family’s summer enclave in Harbor Springs, Michigan, 30 miles north to
visit friends in Mackinaw City.
For
geographical orientation, look at the back of your left hand – you’ll note it looks
like the state of Michigan. Detroit is
down at the base of your thumb; Harbor Springs is at the top of your ring
finger. Mackinaw City is at the top tip
in the middle. My parents are both buried there. And, by the way, the city is on
the “mainland,” by the Mackinac Bridge, not on Mackinac Island, eight miles or
so out into Lake Huron.
My dad’s
family, the Walters, had lived or summered in Mackinaw since 1905. Mom’s
family, the McKinney’s from Saginaw, Mich. (near the crux of your thumb and
forefinger), built a Mackinaw summer home in the 1920s or 30s. We never asked for specifics. Dad grew up in Marion, Indiana, and due to a
long list of family happenstance, went to Mackinaw City High School during
World War II, class of 1945.
The Milners,
Mary Jean’s family, were from Indianapolis where her dad, the Rev. Dr. Jean Milner,
was senior pastor at Second Presbyterian Church from 1921-1960, first on 38th
Street at Meridian, then north to 7700 North Meridian where it is still located
today.
In the
1920s, Indiana’s allergy season led Rev. Milner to find summer solace in
Northern Michigan, where he built a log cabin west of Harbor Springs on Lake
Michigan, and a shed on the shore that was his “writing room” where he would
construct sermons and teaching plans for the coming year.
My wife Pam
and I learned this while visiting Mary Jean and husband Dr. Vincent Alig in
2014, standing on the beachfront below their Harbor Springs home. Vince died the
following summer in 2015; we kept in regular touch with Mary Jean until she
passed last Friday, Dec. 6, at age 95.
Going back
to last week’s column
(#943 link) about meeting Vince and Mary Jean in 2002 at the Mustard Seed
Bible study Christmas breakfast at Indy’s East 91st Street Christian
Church, that “random” meeting, I believed immediately, was no random
thing. The meeting was a God thing, as I
and my family grappled with my mother’s severe health decline. Discovering that
day that Mary Jean was “Jeannie” my parents, and especially my mom, had spoken
of years before, built a welcome bridge to my mom’s youth.
Jeannie, who
went to Tudor Hall, a high school in Indy, had a friend named Fred “Fritz”
Leete at Indy’s Park School (now Park-Tudor School), whose family had a multi-home
estate (“The Leete Fleet”) down Wawatam Beach from the McKinney place. Mom,
dad, and Fritz were friends, and Jeannie stayed with Mom in Mackinaw. Vince, whose
family, also from Indy, had a summer home on Walloon Lake (also tip of the ring
finger) occasionally visited Mackinaw as well. Everybody knew everybody along the beach
I learned a
lot about my now bed-bound mom I had not known.
Mom, Jeannie said, was the “beach gang” leader-of-the-pack. Her family
had a nice Chris-Craft motorboat and Mom led various forays over to Mackinac
Island or bombing around the Straits. Jeannie told me she remembers Mom
barefoot water skiing – I had no idea – and that Mom would brag about speeding
back and forth to Saginaw in her dad’s car (Grandpa Doc was a Saginaw ophthalmologist).
I remember a pair of wooden “Cypress Garden” water skis – from Florida – in our
Mackinaw cottage garage, supposedly the first skis on the Straits.
The most legendary
“Jeannie” story was when the gang climbed one of the 100-foot steel fire towers
dotted around heavily forested northern Michigan. Jeannie got about half way up, just above the
tree line, said “that’s enough,” and the guys in the group helped her back
down. The towers were still there in the 1970s, 30 years ricketier, and I can
vouch that climbing them was a scary if thrilling enterprise.
As Mom lay
in an Alpena, Mich., nursing home in late 2002, her broken hip well-healing but
cranial vascular leakage causing progressive dementia, Mom immediately smiled when
I told her about meeting Mary Jean. “Oh,
that was Jeannie,” Mom said, with a smile that grew larger when I showed her
the color photo Mary Jean gave me of the “Sag-a-Mac,” the 1940s McKinney
Chris-Craft of Mom’s youth.
This was all
such a Christmas blessing. Mom would
pass in March 2003, but my friendship with Vince and Mary Jean grew with visits
and Bible studies together. She added a dimension to knowing my own mother I
and my siblings had never known. She and Vince encouraged my weekly writings, and
I’ll always remember this about Mary Jean: when she prayed, you knew Jesus was
in the room. Well done.
Walters (rlwcom@aol.com)
compliments Mary Jean’s wonderful family.
Here is her Obituary.